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Workshop for Men: The Shrunken Soul - Healing Men's Shame in a Wounded World

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PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD - WORKSHOP with WILLIAM BELOW

EARLY BOOKING DISCOUNT IF BOOKED BY 31 JULY

A RESIDENTIAL WORKSHOP FOR MEN

The Shrunken Soul

Healing Men's Shame in a Wounded World

A Retreat for Men

with 

William Ayot & Simon Roe

Thursday 13th to Sunday 16th November 2025

The Shrunken Soul

Healing Men’s Shame in a Wounded World

Do you beat yourself up when things go wrong? Do you doubt yourself

at crucial moments? Can you never quite get there, or be good enough?

These are signs of an all-too-common wounding in the lives of men.

Whether it happened through a carer’s cruelties in childhood, belittling

and bullying at school, or constant sideswipes and point-scoring at work,

being shamed can have a terrible effect on us as we grow and develop.

“When their light has picked you out

and their questions are asked”…

In an age of increasing self-knowledge, shame remains one of the least

recognised scourges of modern life. It is cumulative, debilitating and life-

limiting. Over time it teaches us to shrink from and even hate ourselves.

The all-pervasive depth of shame’s wounding can be seen in abuse,

addiction, broken relationships, inexplicable anger, rage and violence.

Join William and Simon in a safe and supportive male environment as

they dive into the workings and woundings of shame in men’s lives.

During this highly experiential weekend in the remarkable

Monmouthshire countryside, they will be using skills and techniques

(such as story, poetry, ritual and deep sharing) acquired as they too

served time under the shadow of shame, bringing back some hard-

earned gold to share…. Expect a kind welcome and a warm

understanding…

……………………………… “Say to them:

‘I am not ashamed’. A sure horizon……………

will come around you. The heron will begin

his evening flight from the hilltop. ……………..

………………………………………………………………Wendell Berry

……………………………………………………………………Be Ready

Please note: this unique men’s retreat will include contemplative time in

the healing and gentling company of horses, as led by experienced

facilitator Ruth Tudor in her dedicated menage at Trealy Farm.

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Venue: Trealy Farm, Mitchel Troy, Monmouth NP25 4BL

Arrival Time: from 4 – 6.30pm on 13th November

Workshop Timings: The workshop will start with dinner at 6.30p.m.

Costs We are separating the cost of the accommodation from the cost of the workshop. This is for transparency.

Cost of Workshop: £500 with early booking discount if booked before 31st July 2025. If booked after 1st August the full price is £600. (NB Food and accommodation is charged on top of this fee).

Accommodation Costs: from £435

FOR FULL INFORMATION ON THIS COURSE AND ACCOMODATION & FOOD CLICK HERE

Facilitators:

Simon Roe

Originally trained as a body psychotherapist with Nick Totton & Em Edmondson, Simon has nearly 30 years’ experience of working with individuals and groups.

For the last 25 years’ he has worked almost exclusively with men & teenage boys in a variety of settings including 1-1 psychotherapy, domestic violence work and Rites of Passage events. He is a Respect approved trainer & supervisor www.respect.uk.net for domestic violence practitioners.

Simon is a fully accredited member of the Association of Facilitators www.associationoffacilitators.co.uk

William Ayot

William Ayot is an award-winning poet, author, teacher and ritualist. Over three decades, he has organized, hosted, facilitated and led, men’s and mixed personal development events and rites of passage, working in rehab, correctional, personal development and organizational contexts.

He uses poetry and the arts to teach leadership in boardrooms and business schools around the world, currently teaching on the Advanced Management Programme at INSEAD. William also designs and leads bespoke rituals for individuals and groups in his purpose-built ritual garden in Monmouthshire, Wales.

Writing includes the play, Bengal Lancer, three collections of poetry, and a prose book on ritual. He is currently writing a book for and about men in a time of epochal change.

William leads personal tailor-made rituals for people in South Wales, UK.

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